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The Experience of Putting Yourself Out There

The Experience of Putting Yourself Out There

And Defying the Borders of Your Comfort Zone

Oi Magnanimites! Step 2. The first soloblog.

This one will be an extension of our introductory blogpost with a more personal touch. The act of publishing, or even more so, sharing my first blog ever with something substantial and private to say has been a whole new sort of internal experience. It starts with fear. You start thinking ludicrously irrational thoughts, like: “what if people (I never meet anymore) will say shit about me” or “what if the whole world will be against me??”. Insecurity is another aspect, confusion even. So much for facing this danger with tranquility… But as we said, a journey starts with a first step. Besides these rather unpleasant emotions, excitement and a bit of pride definitely played their part, which makes the experience as a whole undoubtedly a positive one. I have been dreaming of blogging for 2 or 3 years now and finally the move has been made.

Confronting Fear

After the first likes on Facebook, the rollercoaster of emotions came to its terminal and changed into a state of confidence and new ideas for the future. This second part of the experience has a double feeling to it for me. On the one hand, I dislike the fact that I need likes to feel good about a project that I think I should feel good about no matter what. In some cases or situations I can be very sensitive to the judgment of others, and that’s somewhat frustrating. On the other hand it’s a perfectly human phenomenon. Evolutionary speaking we’re social animals, we need the support of our peers. Ostracism appears to be a huge predictor of stress. So I guess that makes me a healthy person. And on top of that, if you want to accomplish something, especially in the sphere of the creative (to which I would love to ascribe this endeavor), you will have to step over this fear of criticism and confront it! Funny side note is that the confidence fades as soon as you’re about to upload the second blogpost. Yep, the fear has returned! Luckily the ideas stick.

comfort-zone
The cliché

Comfort Zones, Responsibilities, Choices

And exactly that is a big part of what this blog is about. Defying comfort zones and finally starting the project/executing the idea you always had in mind, approach that girl/guy you’ve been spying on (you creep), or even buy those purple shoes you think no one else will like. It’s about making choices and about taking your responsibility to live your life the way it fits you best. Not at the expense of everything else, of course. But there aren’t a lot of things that should stop you. That too will be discussed. The excuses people make to stay in their comfort zones. One of mine is “perfectionism”, another is “being busy” (and I still use them…). For me, this project is the definition of a magnanimous act. And that’s why I had to write this post as a follow-up. I know it’s hard, at this very moment there still are area’s in my life where I have to defy my fears and make those choices. But you can’t make all the steps at once. But as Michel said, as long as you keep moving (hopefully mostly forward, sometimes backward to go forward again).

Where Great Minds Meet

I want to conclude today with our subtitle. I must admit. This title is prone to sounding pretentious. As you can imagine, of course it’s not meant that way. In the introduction Michel and I explained what we understand when we talk about Magnanimity. It is made clear that it isn’t about a set-in-stone personality trait, but about a mindset that is there for everyone to adopt. The choice is yours if you will, or not… My aunt told me she experienced the enthusiasm when she read the previous blogpost (I hope it’s not just because of familial encouragement). And I can honestly say that I do get excited when I find people who are on the same page and whom I can share stories with. If I’d have a tail I’d wiggle it (I guess that makes me Hachiko…). Michel and I just wanted an outlet where we can write freely and personally about what keeps us up at night and where we can find people who have similar interests, attitudes, experiences, wishes and so on. A friend of mine already told me that our introductory post motivated him. I truly cannot wish for more, small scale mission accomplished… Thank you for telling me, bro!

So what idea did you have since long? Have you executed it, or not? Why? Or why not (yet)?

A Journey Starts With a First Step

A Journey Starts With a First Step

Two guys working together in a retail store, having a conversation


D: Ohw cool! So you have a company on the side??
M: Yeah man, we write businessplans together with entrepeneurs to give them a head start.
D: Alright, sounds interesting man! I think it’s awesome when people dare to take risks and get rewarded for it on top of that. So how’s it going?
M: Not bad actually. I just got my first employee!
D: Haha, congratulations dude! Going for the big league eh!
M: Haha, we’ll see what happens man. I’m just enjoying the ride. Learning by doing! So what are you up to?
D: Well, I have done a lot of stuff. Started a business, got out of it. Worked several jobs. Started an education to become a teacher. Quit that when I was almost done and had taught for five years. And now starting my studies in psychology.
M: Holy moly, talk about taking risks. That’s one interesting path! I like it. How come this rollercoaster of choices?
D: I never really knew what I wanted, so initially I just chose something and after that I followed whatever felt good. Looking back, that explains the diverse things I have done and still do.
M: I understand perfectly. I quit my first real job after 3 months. It just didn’t feel right, although the pay and benefits were very good. But I believe you must live your heart, to fulfill your life. A little risk has to be taken. What’s your goal with your studies?
D: I love it, without risks, there are no leaps. As for my studies, I don’t have a clear view yet. I’m really focused on getting the degree first. The only thing I know is that I want to make a difference in people’s lives. Help them becoming a better, more educated, wiser, happier person. But that’s still an idea. I am really interested in people and psychology, so I am in the right place.
M: Cool. I am doing an NLP course now. I think that would be something for you as well. It’s all about helping yourself thinking better and changing your mindset for the good. It’s the base for all the coaches and mentors you see today.
D: Yeah, I know what it is. I read a book about it and I know Tony Robbins has some of his roots in it. But I didn’t thought it to be worthwhile. But I do like the ideas about helping people and elevating yourself.
M: I think personal growth is THE way to happiness and success. Exactly what I am working on since a couple of years.
D: Haha, seems we’re quite on a par there! I’m very curious about what the future will bring. Unfortunately, patience absolutely is a virtue…
M: Yeah same here. As long as we keep moving though, being patient won’t get boring!

And now we’re here. Right in the middle of our next move, which entails sharing, discussing and keeping track of our growth process of entrepreneurial, personal and social acts.
In the meanwhile we’ve both changed jobs and we haven’t been talking as much as we did when we had been working together, of course. But as it befits in a bromance we did miss each other like Hachiko missed his master (we’ll leave it in the middle who is the master) and working together at a certain point in time was inevitable.

Now… What is ‘Magnanimity’?

According to Noah Webster of the American Language Magnanimity is defined as such:

MAGNANIMITY, n. [L. magnanimitas; magnus, great, and animus, mind.] Greatness of mind; that elevation or dignity of soul, which encounters danger and trouble with tranquility and firmness, which raises the possessor above revenge, and makes him delight in acts of benevolence, which makes him disdain injustice and meanness, and prompts him to sacrifice personal ease, interest and safety for the accomplishment of useful and noble objects. “

Classic Example of Magnanimous Men
Classic Example of Magnanimous Men

Why Magnanimities?

You might ask. Because it is part of the growth process. Danny was afraid this introductory message wouldn’t be inspiring enough. To that Michel replied: perfectionism can be a mask of fear and procrastination… The answer to that fear is taking a magnanimous stance, take the leap and just do it! (as the famous philosopher Nike once said). It’s about escaping comfort zones.
The growth process, it’s central in both our lives. And what creates even more joy than doing the thing you love to do? Indeed! Enjoying it with others! We’d like to inspire, but we also like to get inspired. We’d like to motivate, and of course we like to get motivated by you. We’d like to educate, and get educated.
So join us on the wonderful path we call progress, and lets grow into magnanimous men and women!

 

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