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Doing Shit When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Shit

Doing Shit When You Don’t Feel Like Doing Shit

consistency – the quality of always behaving or performing in a similar way, or of always happening in a similar way

Consistency, ladies and gentlemen. It’s the twin-sister of durability, of discipline, of persistence, of grit. Their mother Conscientiousness and father Steadfastness did an awesome job. I’ll use them interchangeably here. Why am I writing about this? The reason is two-fold.

The first reason is that I had this subject written down in my subject list for this magnificent blog for a while now. I am convinced that consistency is a much better predictor of achieving what you want in life than intelligence is. Intelligence without a certain amount of action is, of course, useless. There always has to be some form of action to produce something. And of course, I’m not telling anything new here. I think we all know that guy who invented, among some other things, the quote: “Genius is one per cent inspiration, ninety-nine per cent perspiration”.

Genius is one per cent inspiration, ninety-nine per cent perspiration ~ T. Edison

A great example is a girl I had in my class when I went to university (for the first time). She had two diploma’s already! She climbed up the education ladder to get to university. And with all due respect to her, but she wasn’t the smartest of the bunch. But the point of this article is that exactly that doesn’t matter! She worked her ass off and to be honest, she kicked mine!

Consistency in action
He looks quite consistent…

The second, and most important, reason is the fact that I’m without inspiration the whole week already (although I have a huge subject list ready for use). And without inspiration, motivation lacks too. Without motivation, it is hard to be prolific. To be prolific, you have to be consistent. The circle is complete.

It sucks to be without inspiration! But it happens. And if you want to reach a certain goal, especially if they’re a bit bigger, you’ll have to deal with it. I think the magic trick is to search for a drop of consistency in your body somewhere in the very moment of shortage of inspiration and motivation, and just start, see where it goes. Or maybe the other way around, maybe you’re able to find a drop of inspiration to get on that consistency track again. Josh Waitzkin (author of The Art of Learning) once stated that “growth comes at the point of resistance“. This is such a point.

If you don’t feel like running, go run. If you don’t feel like practicing your violin, go practice. If you don’t feel like completing your assignment, go complete it. If you don’t feel like writing, go and write. Growth comes at the point of resistance.

Timeless wisdom

SO!! Now comes the part where I share my timeless wisdom with the world, so that it can be a better place and flourish forever and eventually there will be world peace. So listen closely. I think there are two sorts of categories to keep your consistency. Let’s call them ‘fast carbs’ and ‘slow carbs’. Fast carbs are a quick fix, slow carbs are in there for the long run, just like with real carbs (what a coincidence). Here’s a short, non-exhaustive list

  • Fast carbs
    • Quotes. Quotes might be cheesy, or cliche. But oftentimes they come from very smart and/or cunning people who have some serious thinking power or a treasure full of experience. It’s the smallest summary of knowledge you can get.
    • (Parts of) Speeches. See previous, only a bit less byte-sized.
    • Excercise. Do 50 jumping jacks, or 20 push ups, or sit-ups. Whatever makes you happy! You’d be surprised how much difference 2 minutes can make.
    • Music. This worked when I didn’t want to go out ten years ago and people wanted to persuade me. Maybe you can use it for something that’s actually useful… (Sports for example?)
    • Just do the first 5 minutes.
CARBS! Source: The Rock/Twitter
CARBS!
Source: The Rock/Twitter
  • Slow carbs
    • A goal. If you have a goal that really, REALLY, resonates with you. A goal you really believe in. One you want to achieve no matter what. (This one might not come as a surprise).
    • Accountability. The good old “stick behind the door”, as we say in our precious Holland. The responsibility you have towards others serves as a propeller as well. Thanks Michel! And thank you too, thousands of potential readers!
    • Pat on your back. Celebrate your wins. Reflect in the morning on the things you’re happy you did the day before. (CAVEAT: a hint of consistency is needed to be able to apply this, could evolve into a virtuous circle though)

I’m off for a run… Don’t feel like it at all though! Cheers!

 

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You don’t Know You – How to Become More Self-Aware

You don’t Know You – How to Become More Self-Aware

“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”

Ralph Ellison

 

Self-awareness. It is a concept that’s at the source of it all. If you are talking about change, improvement, growth, learning and magnanimity. Self-awareness is where it all starts. If you are not self-aware, how can you know where you need to grow, what you need to learn, or why you keep making the same mistake over and over again.

That’s why I want to address it in this article and give some tips on achieving self-awareness. Important is to write down, when you go into the mental search. Your mind and memory can trick you, so make sure you put it in hard writing for revision. I write down a lot of stuff, because I know it works. It has helped me in my decision-making, goal-setting, and self-awareness.

Ok let’s go.

  1. Retrace your life story

Everybody has their own specific life path. Some grow up in the city, others in rural areas. Some have a broken family, others had trouble in school. Many factors come into play in the first 20 years of your life. They form a big part of your personality and becomes a fixed identity. For some people changing it is nearly impossible. Your life story are all the decisions and events that took you to the exact time and place where you are now. Retracing back, can give you insights into your personality or behavior at this moment.

 

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”

Michel de Montaigne

 

  1. What are your strong and growth points

Look to yourself as if you were a business you could invest in. What strengths do you have? What are you good at? What have you been doing for such a long time, to make you an expert in it? What sets you apart from the next guy or girl? Don’t be disappointed if you have not found such a thing. It is sometimes not as clear as a certain skill. This is merely a self-awareness exercise. It shows you if you have already build up certain skills during your past life. Next to strong points, there are weak points. But I prefer to talk about growth points, because all weak points can be turned around if you really want it. Having weak points is not a bad thing though. I have weak points, and love them. Because it allows me to make better decisions of what I am, and what I am not.

  1. What are your habits

Everybody has habits, whether small or extensive. Write them down and see what makes up your day. Be honest. Self-awareness can be a slap in the face, or even a concrete chair thrown by The Hulk himself. Pretending to be studying or working out, could turn out to be snacking and watching YouTube. Having clear insight into the habit of every single day, is the key to knowing what makes you tick, and what does not.

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

Lao Tzu

 

  1. What motivates or delights you

To know what makes you happy or what gets you out of bed is paramount for achieving happiness. And I think we all want some happiness in our lives. Being self-aware of what motivates you and brings you pleasure can help understand yourself.

  1. What is your dream or life goal

Write down in a mind map, or make a list of how your life will be in 10 years. If you don’t know where to start you could ask yourself the question; “If I had all the time and money in the world, what would I be doing?” This life goal or dream represents your current wish for the future. You can use it as a picture of your current self-awareness, and use it as a map for the future.

  1. Get honest feedback

There is no better way to get to self-awareness than asking other people how they see you. No matter how well you think you know yourself, another person can bring you a fresh perspective on you. Make sure to get honest feedback. Some people who like you, can try to soften some feedback. That’s not always helpful when you want to get a full perspective of yourself. Also don’t go with just one person. The more people you ask that know you in different situations, the better.

 

“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.”

Leonardo da Vinci

 

For me certainly, the realization of the importance of self-awareness created a real mind shift. I use it still to grow, learn, and ultimately be happy. It being the concept at the source, you should start to know yourself.

 

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Knowledge and Growth – Why I read Books

Knowledge and Growth – Why I read Books

“You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend.”

-Paul Sweeney-

As you might have read, Danny and I started this blog to inspire and be inspired on our way to understanding magnanimity. Personally for me it can be an outlet for my thoughts on several subjects that run around in my head. Subjects that are not necessarily placed in the marketing or business category. They do have everything to do with the concepts of knowledge, growth and for a large part magnanimity. In this blog I want to look into an activity that sparked my search for knowledge and growth; reading books.

When you are young, if you are lucky, you learn to read text. You learn in school, you learn through your parents, and later on you learn because society forces you to read. You don’t want to be the kid that can’t read the “No Swimming, Beware of Sharks” sign. You learn because you must. That’s exactly the way I learned it. I had to.

Later, in my teenage years I discovered comic books. Tintin (or as it was named in Dutch ‘Kuifje’) being my favorite. It took me away on exciting adventures across time and space. Although the illustrations were the main thing, you were forced to read the balloons. And I loved it. I read faster and reading became easier. Halfway through high school I discovered that you could also read informative books about topics you were interested in.

I remember this one book about football. It was written for kids, and had lots of pictures. I love sports, and from a young age I was involved in lots of physical activity. Reading books, and learning tips and tricks about sports was unbelievable. A book about football! I loved to test my skills on the pitch, playing around with friends. I learned in training and from coaches. But reading books added a whole new layer on the learning experience. The layer of theoretical awareness of an expert.

When I went to University to study business, I read almost all the texts that were mandatory. Not because it was necessary per se. It was possible to pass with reading only the main texts. Some friends passed several courses by reading just by attending the lectures. I read all the texts, because I wanted to know as much as possible. Filling my brain with more information, didn’t hurt. And finishing a book or text gave a great feeling of satisfaction.

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After my studies I continued this trend, and diverted my reading towards a broader category. About personal growth, development, psychology, sociology, history and biology. I could find interesting books in any topic. I was addicted.

Fast forward to today…. Currently there are some hundred plus books in my home. I try to read a minimum of 30 minutes every single day. In the weekends and holidays this can be much more. Taking in new knowledge, different perspectives, rare insights and inspirational content gets me out of bed. I can’t prove it all, but I have learned a lot of things through books. Reading informative books is a thing I would still do every day, no matter what age or life phase.

I truly believe that reading informative books has made me into a more balanced, honest, empathic, hard working and focused human being. When you learn the perspective of somebody that is knowledgeable in a certain field, you have not his knowledge. But you know his perspective, and that makes you open to learn his knowledge. Reading books has taught me about growth mindset. I can be anything I want. I can learn anything I wish. Books are as accessible as ever and thus knowledge and growth are as accessible as ever.

Why you should read too

Ok, watching some clips on YouTube can definitively develop your knowledge. It sure costs less energy to absorb the information. But reading a book, contains so much more depth, and because you read it, you store the information much better. Furthermore, when an author writes a book, he or she might have years of experience to back it up. Years of research has preceded the first draft, and editors check the content over and over.

A well-written book is timeless. It is a manuscript of the author’s soul. Whether fiction or non-fiction, it can inspire, inform, educate and influence your behavior. A book has the power to change one’s life. And changing different lives at the same time, thereby influencing and even changing the whole world. A well-written book gives you joy in reading. Brings you to a new level of thinking, feeds you with knowledge that helps you grow, and brings you closer to your goals.

Being magnanimous is to build on the great minds of the past. What better way to do this than to read their manuscripts, learn about their struggles, and reap the benefits of their research. Don’t be afraid to be called an intellectual or nerd. Read a book, and build your mind. Become greater than you were yesterday, and share it with others. Don’t be trapped in a dogma, learn something new. Grow your mind, grow your knowledge, by growing your library.

 

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