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You don’t Know You – How to Become More Self-Aware

You don’t Know You – How to Become More Self-Aware

“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”

Ralph Ellison

 

Self-awareness. It is a concept that’s at the source of it all. If you are talking about change, improvement, growth, learning and magnanimity. Self-awareness is where it all starts. If you are not self-aware, how can you know where you need to grow, what you need to learn, or why you keep making the same mistake over and over again.

That’s why I want to address it in this article and give some tips on achieving self-awareness. Important is to write down, when you go into the mental search. Your mind and memory can trick you, so make sure you put it in hard writing for revision. I write down a lot of stuff, because I know it works. It has helped me in my decision-making, goal-setting, and self-awareness.

Ok let’s go.

  1. Retrace your life story

Everybody has their own specific life path. Some grow up in the city, others in rural areas. Some have a broken family, others had trouble in school. Many factors come into play in the first 20 years of your life. They form a big part of your personality and becomes a fixed identity. For some people changing it is nearly impossible. Your life story are all the decisions and events that took you to the exact time and place where you are now. Retracing back, can give you insights into your personality or behavior at this moment.

 

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.”

Michel de Montaigne

 

  1. What are your strong and growth points

Look to yourself as if you were a business you could invest in. What strengths do you have? What are you good at? What have you been doing for such a long time, to make you an expert in it? What sets you apart from the next guy or girl? Don’t be disappointed if you have not found such a thing. It is sometimes not as clear as a certain skill. This is merely a self-awareness exercise. It shows you if you have already build up certain skills during your past life. Next to strong points, there are weak points. But I prefer to talk about growth points, because all weak points can be turned around if you really want it. Having weak points is not a bad thing though. I have weak points, and love them. Because it allows me to make better decisions of what I am, and what I am not.

  1. What are your habits

Everybody has habits, whether small or extensive. Write them down and see what makes up your day. Be honest. Self-awareness can be a slap in the face, or even a concrete chair thrown by The Hulk himself. Pretending to be studying or working out, could turn out to be snacking and watching YouTube. Having clear insight into the habit of every single day, is the key to knowing what makes you tick, and what does not.

“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

Lao Tzu

 

  1. What motivates or delights you

To know what makes you happy or what gets you out of bed is paramount for achieving happiness. And I think we all want some happiness in our lives. Being self-aware of what motivates you and brings you pleasure can help understand yourself.

  1. What is your dream or life goal

Write down in a mind map, or make a list of how your life will be in 10 years. If you don’t know where to start you could ask yourself the question; “If I had all the time and money in the world, what would I be doing?” This life goal or dream represents your current wish for the future. You can use it as a picture of your current self-awareness, and use it as a map for the future.

  1. Get honest feedback

There is no better way to get to self-awareness than asking other people how they see you. No matter how well you think you know yourself, another person can bring you a fresh perspective on you. Make sure to get honest feedback. Some people who like you, can try to soften some feedback. That’s not always helpful when you want to get a full perspective of yourself. Also don’t go with just one person. The more people you ask that know you in different situations, the better.

 

“One can have no smaller or greater mastery than mastery of oneself.”

Leonardo da Vinci

 

For me certainly, the realization of the importance of self-awareness created a real mind shift. I use it still to grow, learn, and ultimately be happy. It being the concept at the source, you should start to know yourself.

 

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Action – And the Power of Doing

Action – And the Power of Doing

“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson

It’s 6:30 in the morning. I unwillingly turn around and hit the button that shuts up the fake bird sounds of my phone. The cold dark morning greets me indifferently, and I rise up. The day has started. I read something, make breakfast and get behind my computer. I do the hard ‘thinking’ stuff first and I roll through the day. I am ahead of everybody else, and all the things I needed to do, I get done. When the business hours are done, I get to my sports. I work myself in a sweat, and get back home. I am broken, yet revived. I get behind my laptop for other projects. I read to end the day, and make a to-do list for tomorrow.

A perfect working day like this, revolves around action. I have days, where I get only a couple things done, and the time does not feel well spent. I guess it is natural. You can’t be your best every day. Action and doing things gives me the best feeling possible. Especially when most of it involves things I like!

I love to do things. Preferably physical activities, but a good day reading, writing, emailing, and making calls beats doing nothing any day. I will have to see the long term results that come out of the work, but my guess is that it’ll all be worth it. That’s the reason why I wonder, when people want something (at least they say they want it) and they do nothing about it.

However vague your wish for the future might be, waiting for it to become clear is useless. There will not be someone that will tell you exactly what to do. It’s the same as if you are writing a book. It will form as soon as you start writing. If someone else tells you what to write, it is not your book anymore. The same thing applies to your life. You have to form your own vision. And you are the only one that can make it a reality.

“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” – Peter Marshall

Action is key. And the first small step is the hardest. That’s why you need to think in small steps. A small and clearly defined step is so much more easier to accomplish, and thus paves the way for the next small step. Every big project is made up of a lot of small clearly defined steps. Starting a business, can for example start with defining exactly what customer you are serving, with what service or product. Then you dig into finding your company name, your logo, your mission statement, etc., etc.

Think in small steps that anyone can do. Like calling a client. Just pick up the phone and dial the number. Step into the ‘action zone’, and leave your brain at home. Focus on doing, doing and doing. You can laugh later at how you fucked up the introduction on the phone (happens to me all the time..).

Magnanimity, I believe has everything to do with doing. We have a lot of philosophers, thinkers, and dreamers in the world. But to become a truly Great Mind, we have to link that brain to our body and start doing.

You have to do.

 “Action is the foundational key to all success.” – Pablo Picasso

 

 

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The Self-Help Generation

The Self-Help Generation

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

If you take a look at my books, scattered around my ‘man cave’, you will see a lot of books that fit into the self-help category. I am not ashamed of it. Although I wonder, when I find another book from this category on my door mat, if I haven’t read enough by now. Not all, but definitively some books just get me fired up, especially the ones on business, growth, and learning.

In my eyes a good book, informs and educates me, but at the same time motivates me. It shows me the actions to take and why I should take them. Like a motivational speaker, the text grabs you by the throat and shakes your belief. You can do it, you will do it, you are on your way to success. Whatever success may means to you, I value the distant care of the writer for me to reach my success.

When I open Instagram, I get hit in the face with hundreds of motivational quotes and inspirational words. Wow! Although sometimes they seem somewhat superficial and corny, I happily take part and I write motivational words every day to myself, and anyone who’s interested. The fact that all the young people have access to these quotes and positive vibes is fascinating. Could we be part of the Self-Help Generation?

Do you believe in unlimited possibilities? Can anyone reach their life goal, just by believing? Will we see an entire generation living fulfilled lives? Who knows. I certainly hope so. The information, knowledge, and experiences of those who tell you how, is readily accessible. Books are cheap, internet is free and motivational speakers stalk you in every corner of Instagram. The power is yours.

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It’s true, that once you’ve read half a dozen books, you’ve read them all. But like Zig Ziglar said: “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” And taking in motivational quotes, inspirational stories, and success tips is good, as long as you need it.

The thing I find most important about this development is the underlying mindset. I first learned about it in a Strategy course at University. The development of business strategy was portrayed as being on a continuum between Choice (or Free Will) versus Determinism. In what way could you fully decide the outcome of the future with choices made now. And in what way are you just a pawn on a chess board, outside of your control.

This suspense between choice and determinism can also be seen in our own lives. The strategy we pursue in our career, and how we handle health, family and love, are all part of our mindset. Are you more of a choice kind of person? Do you think you can control the outcome of your career, learn a skill you have no experience in, and influence the major flow of your life? Or are you more of a determinist? Do you think that things come as they come and you can’t do anything about it, do you think innate talent is the major determinant of where your career will lead you?

When you look at the scientific research the real world truth will of course lie somewhere in the middle. We have influence over major choices (at least we believe we do; our mind plays more tricks on us than we are aware of), and at the same time the world definitively has a lot more things going on that you can NOT influence. Just try to plan for a sunny weekend in the Netherlands.

My point is this. What counts is what you believe. And for me it is the belief that I do have influence over my future. Because this mindset WORKS for me. I can learn new skills. I can become who I want to be. I can design my career as I wish. I learn and become experienced. I will do things, make mistakes and grow. I will take full responsibility for my life. Not because it is the full scientific truth, but because it works for me. I design my life. I design my happiness. A choice mindset works for me. I am sure it will work for you too.

 

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Why This Blog Is Interesting

Why This Blog Is Interesting

In Praise of Incrementalism

I realize that our stories might only become of interest to people from the point on where the big public decides: “Now they have achieved something” or “now they are successful”. Unfortunately, but understandably, achievement and success is mostly measured by material standards. But! Those material standards are in most cases just a reflection of the result of the incremental steps ‘successful’ people have been taking over months and months, years and years, maybe even decades (patience is a virtue…).

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In our first blogpost we referred to that first step already. Let’s take an actual journey (as in: travel/holiday/vacation) this time, as I think and hope most people can relate to that. What would you say would be that first step? When you’re waving your family and/or friends goodbye at the airport? When you get in your car with your caravan behind (as we proudly do in Holland)? Or when you book your ticket? No… Of course not. Of course it’s debatable, but let’s say the first step is making the decision (inspirational here, practical here and here) to go on a trip you have always wanted. After that, step 2, you might make an inventory of what is needed to make the trip.

3. Money is needed for everything on that list, so you get a job

4. You save money

5. You buy a suitcase/backpack

6. Read about your destination

7. You get those vaccines

8. Download Duolingo

57. Buy a cap and a shirt of Ronaldo

69. Buy socks and sandals

100. Land in Brasil!!

Incrementalism

That is THE way to reach your destination. If it’s about traveling, about making that promotion, about reaching your top performance, or making change on whatever scale. Start with your decision. Between your ears, that’s where everything starts, from going to the toilet to being an astronaut. I’m not saying they’re all at the same level (although people in space have to go for #2 as well…) and equally achievable, but it all does start between your ears. After that, you have to take that first, actionable, incremental step. Let’s call this procedure, or method, or philosophy as you will, incrementalism.

On a more serious note, when you have to find a job, and you have been sitting at home for a while already. Getting that job might seem like a giant leap. And still, that giant leap consists of incremental steps! Experiment with a variety of steps, and especially the ones that are slightly outside of your comfort zone. What is there to loose? Your job?? Exactly… This implies, that when a goal you desperately want to reach seems so far a way, it can paralyze you. Incrementalism is certainly a way to decrease or diminish that paralysis.

The Inventor of the Wheel?

And of course I’m not the first one who has come up with this. Everyone who has done some type of education, middle school even, knows about the concept of setting Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely goals. Indeed, SMART goals. I think the realisation of an incrementalist approach comes before setting SMART goals, but they fit perfectly on the same page. Another interesting topic for everyone to dive into is the difference between a Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset, as posed by Carol Dweck. Growth Mindset people believe that they can reach a certain goal with incremental efforts.

Incrementalist Mindset
Fixed vs Growth Mindset, Summarized

Who Are You?!

Now… I hear you thinking, “who the f… are you to tell us this, Dannyboy?!”. And I can share with you two sides of the same coin. A ‘success’ side, and a ‘learning’ side.

We win…

The success story is one that I do not share very often, because I usually don’t care to talk about my successes to others. No, that’s not true, but it’s true for this particular success! But ok, for the sake of the argument, this is the best example for me at this moment in time. With an incremental approach I managed to win the Dutch championships as a percussionist seven times in a row when I was a teenager, and one time I had been lucky enough to win the World Music Concours with two musician friends of mine. I never considered it to be something special, and that is one of the reasons I (somewhat) unfortunately never decided to choose that as my future. Thinking back about it, it actually is something to be proud of… So yes, you can consider this a pat on my own back! Anyways, these championships didn’t come in one day. I developed a passion for getting better and better at it and I really practiced hours a day (ask my mother, I predict she’ll still roll her eyes). Incrementally I upped the level. I lost my first Dutch Championship, after that not one more. The irony is that I can tell this in hindsight. At that time I failed to learn mindfully that incremental steps were the way, as the other side of the coin will point out.

Or we learn…

One of the most influential, instructive experiences in my life was starting a business, the other side of the coin. I started with a friend and we managed to get an investor together with his legal adviser. I knew nothing about the business. My friend, who was in the middle of the industry, had been asking me for four years because he was convinced we could do it, and that period of my life was the ideal moment. I jumped into it and was determined to learn along the way. So much for the context. We started slow, and in time it got better. BUT, one of our problems was that we had a ton of ideas. That sounds great, and it actually is. But, as said before, patience is a virtue. We wanted to apply and implement them all at once, in stead of solidifying the projects we were at already. It wasn’t just a problem, it turned out to be a mistake (or learning experience, if you will). If I would’ve consciously learned from my other side of the coin, I would’ve taken the incrementalist approach and hit the break a lot harder, and we might still have had the company.

So! To close the circle, what does make this blog interesting? It’s proof of another incremental step towards magnanimity and hopefully a lot of stuff that comes with it. If this doesn’t lie within your scope of interests, then indeed this might not be as interesting as the title suggests. On the other hand, maybe you can relate to it, maybe you get some inspiration out of it, maybe you have something to add or deduct, or maybe it helps you to take that first incremental step.

The One New Year’s Resolution – The Art of Not Giving a F…

The One New Year’s Resolution – The Art of Not Giving a F…

It’s this time of the year again. Christmas just went by and New Year’s eve is knocking at our doors. We both hope you all had an awesome Christmas! I actually did have an unhealthy one, so that’s good… Lots of good food, lots of good drinks, lots of good games, lots of laughter (which is inherently good). And I’d almost forget the presents!

New Year’s Resolutions

Then the one which is knocking at the door. NYE. New Year. New Beginning. New Year’s resolutions. At least for some of us. I actually do not understand why people make these. For me it sounds like an excuse for postponing an adjustment for the better in your life, that you actually don’t really want to make, although you know you should make it. And I would dare to bet on it that that’s part of the reason why a lot of people give up their resolution as soon as the next weekend has arrived. Why wait to make a change if it’s for the better?? Hats off to those who do push through.

New Year's Resolutions...
New Year’s Resolutions…

Anyways. This one is for the ones who do want to make a New Year’s resolution. And it’s also for the ones who make resolutions at the very moment they want to make it. Actually, it is for everyone who is keen on seeing some sort of progress in their lives.

Remember my first blog post, where I shared the roller coaster ride of publishing the first blog? About fear, comfort zones, choices and what not. My goal was to let you guys identify with those feelings and struggles and, ideally, to bring you a step closer to taking action. Getting what you want is impossible if you don’t take action. It is often the last missing link between what we want and what we get. I did indeed get some cool feedback from people who did recognize themselves in it. But unfortunately I haven’t heard or saw anyone taking action, yet.

Not Giving a F@&k

Now! Michel alerted me to an insightful article at Wait But Why, an awesome blog on everything life. Tim Urban, writer of the blog, wrote an awesome piece that indeed gives you a lot of insight in why you do what you do. Or better yet, why you do NOT do what you want to do. I see his blog post as a B-E-A-utiful compliment to my attempt to make you take action. And secretly as a personal blogging goal of mine.

Mr. Urban writes, how we are evolutionary wired to do what we think society finds we should do. He calls it the “Social Survival Mammoth”, and it’s in our way. After that he gives a recipe, and it simply boils down to: how to not give a f@&k (of course within sociopathic boundaries). He wants you to replace the Mammoth with your Authentic Voice.

How to Find the Authentic Voice?

Finding that Authentic Voice is the first part, and it might be the hardest. I think we all know someone, or a few people who are miles away from their Authentic Voice (AV). It might even be yourself. And that’s ok, but it is hard to admit it. And I speak from experience here. It’s not for nothing that I had to wait a long time to make the choices I wanted to make, and be happy with them on top of that! The feeling of freedom you get at those moments are even bigger than the feelings you get when you’re on holidays, or while skydiving! (although for some the latter feels like having been food poisoned… like the other guy… who puked… during the jump… with his instructor attached… behind him…).

Click Image to Read the Article at 'Wait But Why'
Click Image to Read the Article at ‘Wait But Why’

Catalyst

So, to accelerate the search for your AV, I want to share three of the techniques that have helped me.

  1. Meditate
    • I know this sounds wishy washy to a lot of people, but it isn’t! It’s only a breathing exercise. Ever saw a calm, healthy man breath fast and chaotic? Indeed. No. And furthermore, you’ll get to know your thought patterns. (which is really hard, seeing that humans on average have around 40.000 thoughts a day). More about this one in the future!
  2. Get comfortable being on your own
    • You have to be able being with yourself. Normally you’re surrounded by people you like, and you will accept advice from the people you like faster as well. So learn to be surrounded by yourself.
  3. Read books
    • Books (and blogs of course, which are shorter) give you insights and food for thought that you otherwise might not encounter. They will tell you a lot about yourself as well. Michel already wrote a cool, insightful piece about that one.
  4. BONUS:
    • Just. Make. The Choice. Often times you can only know if a choice is right, after you made it. You have to learn to trust your instinct, or gut feeling. The way to do that is to give it a chance. (It gets easier after you tried the first three, by the way). You will encounter dilemma’s in your life, and no analysis or science in the world can help you solve them. And it’s as good as never the end of the world…

 

Happy NYE Everyone! Have a Great 2017!!

Knowledge and Growth – Why I read Books

Knowledge and Growth – Why I read Books

“You know you’ve read a good book when you turn the last page and feel a little as if you have lost a friend.”

-Paul Sweeney-

As you might have read, Danny and I started this blog to inspire and be inspired on our way to understanding magnanimity. Personally for me it can be an outlet for my thoughts on several subjects that run around in my head. Subjects that are not necessarily placed in the marketing or business category. They do have everything to do with the concepts of knowledge, growth and for a large part magnanimity. In this blog I want to look into an activity that sparked my search for knowledge and growth; reading books.

When you are young, if you are lucky, you learn to read text. You learn in school, you learn through your parents, and later on you learn because society forces you to read. You don’t want to be the kid that can’t read the “No Swimming, Beware of Sharks” sign. You learn because you must. That’s exactly the way I learned it. I had to.

Later, in my teenage years I discovered comic books. Tintin (or as it was named in Dutch ‘Kuifje’) being my favorite. It took me away on exciting adventures across time and space. Although the illustrations were the main thing, you were forced to read the balloons. And I loved it. I read faster and reading became easier. Halfway through high school I discovered that you could also read informative books about topics you were interested in.

I remember this one book about football. It was written for kids, and had lots of pictures. I love sports, and from a young age I was involved in lots of physical activity. Reading books, and learning tips and tricks about sports was unbelievable. A book about football! I loved to test my skills on the pitch, playing around with friends. I learned in training and from coaches. But reading books added a whole new layer on the learning experience. The layer of theoretical awareness of an expert.

When I went to University to study business, I read almost all the texts that were mandatory. Not because it was necessary per se. It was possible to pass with reading only the main texts. Some friends passed several courses by reading just by attending the lectures. I read all the texts, because I wanted to know as much as possible. Filling my brain with more information, didn’t hurt. And finishing a book or text gave a great feeling of satisfaction.

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After my studies I continued this trend, and diverted my reading towards a broader category. About personal growth, development, psychology, sociology, history and biology. I could find interesting books in any topic. I was addicted.

Fast forward to today…. Currently there are some hundred plus books in my home. I try to read a minimum of 30 minutes every single day. In the weekends and holidays this can be much more. Taking in new knowledge, different perspectives, rare insights and inspirational content gets me out of bed. I can’t prove it all, but I have learned a lot of things through books. Reading informative books is a thing I would still do every day, no matter what age or life phase.

I truly believe that reading informative books has made me into a more balanced, honest, empathic, hard working and focused human being. When you learn the perspective of somebody that is knowledgeable in a certain field, you have not his knowledge. But you know his perspective, and that makes you open to learn his knowledge. Reading books has taught me about growth mindset. I can be anything I want. I can learn anything I wish. Books are as accessible as ever and thus knowledge and growth are as accessible as ever.

Why you should read too

Ok, watching some clips on YouTube can definitively develop your knowledge. It sure costs less energy to absorb the information. But reading a book, contains so much more depth, and because you read it, you store the information much better. Furthermore, when an author writes a book, he or she might have years of experience to back it up. Years of research has preceded the first draft, and editors check the content over and over.

A well-written book is timeless. It is a manuscript of the author’s soul. Whether fiction or non-fiction, it can inspire, inform, educate and influence your behavior. A book has the power to change one’s life. And changing different lives at the same time, thereby influencing and even changing the whole world. A well-written book gives you joy in reading. Brings you to a new level of thinking, feeds you with knowledge that helps you grow, and brings you closer to your goals.

Being magnanimous is to build on the great minds of the past. What better way to do this than to read their manuscripts, learn about their struggles, and reap the benefits of their research. Don’t be afraid to be called an intellectual or nerd. Read a book, and build your mind. Become greater than you were yesterday, and share it with others. Don’t be trapped in a dogma, learn something new. Grow your mind, grow your knowledge, by growing your library.

 

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The Experience of Putting Yourself Out There

The Experience of Putting Yourself Out There

And Defying the Borders of Your Comfort Zone

Oi Magnanimites! Step 2. The first soloblog.

This one will be an extension of our introductory blogpost with a more personal touch. The act of publishing, or even more so, sharing my first blog ever with something substantial and private to say has been a whole new sort of internal experience. It starts with fear. You start thinking ludicrously irrational thoughts, like: “what if people (I never meet anymore) will say shit about me” or “what if the whole world will be against me??”. Insecurity is another aspect, confusion even. So much for facing this danger with tranquility… But as we said, a journey starts with a first step. Besides these rather unpleasant emotions, excitement and a bit of pride definitely played their part, which makes the experience as a whole undoubtedly a positive one. I have been dreaming of blogging for 2 or 3 years now and finally the move has been made.

Confronting Fear

After the first likes on Facebook, the rollercoaster of emotions came to its terminal and changed into a state of confidence and new ideas for the future. This second part of the experience has a double feeling to it for me. On the one hand, I dislike the fact that I need likes to feel good about a project that I think I should feel good about no matter what. In some cases or situations I can be very sensitive to the judgment of others, and that’s somewhat frustrating. On the other hand it’s a perfectly human phenomenon. Evolutionary speaking we’re social animals, we need the support of our peers. Ostracism appears to be a huge predictor of stress. So I guess that makes me a healthy person. And on top of that, if you want to accomplish something, especially in the sphere of the creative (to which I would love to ascribe this endeavor), you will have to step over this fear of criticism and confront it! Funny side note is that the confidence fades as soon as you’re about to upload the second blogpost. Yep, the fear has returned! Luckily the ideas stick.

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The cliché

Comfort Zones, Responsibilities, Choices

And exactly that is a big part of what this blog is about. Defying comfort zones and finally starting the project/executing the idea you always had in mind, approach that girl/guy you’ve been spying on (you creep), or even buy those purple shoes you think no one else will like. It’s about making choices and about taking your responsibility to live your life the way it fits you best. Not at the expense of everything else, of course. But there aren’t a lot of things that should stop you. That too will be discussed. The excuses people make to stay in their comfort zones. One of mine is “perfectionism”, another is “being busy” (and I still use them…). For me, this project is the definition of a magnanimous act. And that’s why I had to write this post as a follow-up. I know it’s hard, at this very moment there still are area’s in my life where I have to defy my fears and make those choices. But you can’t make all the steps at once. But as Michel said, as long as you keep moving (hopefully mostly forward, sometimes backward to go forward again).

Where Great Minds Meet

I want to conclude today with our subtitle. I must admit. This title is prone to sounding pretentious. As you can imagine, of course it’s not meant that way. In the introduction Michel and I explained what we understand when we talk about Magnanimity. It is made clear that it isn’t about a set-in-stone personality trait, but about a mindset that is there for everyone to adopt. The choice is yours if you will, or not… My aunt told me she experienced the enthusiasm when she read the previous blogpost (I hope it’s not just because of familial encouragement). And I can honestly say that I do get excited when I find people who are on the same page and whom I can share stories with. If I’d have a tail I’d wiggle it (I guess that makes me Hachiko…). Michel and I just wanted an outlet where we can write freely and personally about what keeps us up at night and where we can find people who have similar interests, attitudes, experiences, wishes and so on. A friend of mine already told me that our introductory post motivated him. I truly cannot wish for more, small scale mission accomplished… Thank you for telling me, bro!

So what idea did you have since long? Have you executed it, or not? Why? Or why not (yet)?

A Journey Starts With a First Step

A Journey Starts With a First Step

Two guys working together in a retail store, having a conversation


D: Ohw cool! So you have a company on the side??
M: Yeah man, we write businessplans together with entrepeneurs to give them a head start.
D: Alright, sounds interesting man! I think it’s awesome when people dare to take risks and get rewarded for it on top of that. So how’s it going?
M: Not bad actually. I just got my first employee!
D: Haha, congratulations dude! Going for the big league eh!
M: Haha, we’ll see what happens man. I’m just enjoying the ride. Learning by doing! So what are you up to?
D: Well, I have done a lot of stuff. Started a business, got out of it. Worked several jobs. Started an education to become a teacher. Quit that when I was almost done and had taught for five years. And now starting my studies in psychology.
M: Holy moly, talk about taking risks. That’s one interesting path! I like it. How come this rollercoaster of choices?
D: I never really knew what I wanted, so initially I just chose something and after that I followed whatever felt good. Looking back, that explains the diverse things I have done and still do.
M: I understand perfectly. I quit my first real job after 3 months. It just didn’t feel right, although the pay and benefits were very good. But I believe you must live your heart, to fulfill your life. A little risk has to be taken. What’s your goal with your studies?
D: I love it, without risks, there are no leaps. As for my studies, I don’t have a clear view yet. I’m really focused on getting the degree first. The only thing I know is that I want to make a difference in people’s lives. Help them becoming a better, more educated, wiser, happier person. But that’s still an idea. I am really interested in people and psychology, so I am in the right place.
M: Cool. I am doing an NLP course now. I think that would be something for you as well. It’s all about helping yourself thinking better and changing your mindset for the good. It’s the base for all the coaches and mentors you see today.
D: Yeah, I know what it is. I read a book about it and I know Tony Robbins has some of his roots in it. But I didn’t thought it to be worthwhile. But I do like the ideas about helping people and elevating yourself.
M: I think personal growth is THE way to happiness and success. Exactly what I am working on since a couple of years.
D: Haha, seems we’re quite on a par there! I’m very curious about what the future will bring. Unfortunately, patience absolutely is a virtue…
M: Yeah same here. As long as we keep moving though, being patient won’t get boring!

And now we’re here. Right in the middle of our next move, which entails sharing, discussing and keeping track of our growth process of entrepreneurial, personal and social acts.
In the meanwhile we’ve both changed jobs and we haven’t been talking as much as we did when we had been working together, of course. But as it befits in a bromance we did miss each other like Hachiko missed his master (we’ll leave it in the middle who is the master) and working together at a certain point in time was inevitable.

Now… What is ‘Magnanimity’?

According to Noah Webster of the American Language Magnanimity is defined as such:

MAGNANIMITY, n. [L. magnanimitas; magnus, great, and animus, mind.] Greatness of mind; that elevation or dignity of soul, which encounters danger and trouble with tranquility and firmness, which raises the possessor above revenge, and makes him delight in acts of benevolence, which makes him disdain injustice and meanness, and prompts him to sacrifice personal ease, interest and safety for the accomplishment of useful and noble objects. “

Classic Example of Magnanimous Men
Classic Example of Magnanimous Men

Why Magnanimities?

You might ask. Because it is part of the growth process. Danny was afraid this introductory message wouldn’t be inspiring enough. To that Michel replied: perfectionism can be a mask of fear and procrastination… The answer to that fear is taking a magnanimous stance, take the leap and just do it! (as the famous philosopher Nike once said). It’s about escaping comfort zones.
The growth process, it’s central in both our lives. And what creates even more joy than doing the thing you love to do? Indeed! Enjoying it with others! We’d like to inspire, but we also like to get inspired. We’d like to motivate, and of course we like to get motivated by you. We’d like to educate, and get educated.
So join us on the wonderful path we call progress, and lets grow into magnanimous men and women!

 

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